The Fear of Compassion

The Fear of Compassion

A 2-day workshop. 10.00-17.00 both days.

Next dates ..

3 & 4 October 2009. Milton Keynes.
BOOK ONLINE HERE £30 deposit.

14 & 15 November 2009. Milton Keynes.

12 & 13 December 2009. Milton Keynes.

Two full days to explore cutting edge attitudes & strategies which build compassion. Inspired from the fields of psychology, philosophy, neurolinguistic programming (nlp), and attitudinal healing.

Time and again, scientific research shows the importance of compassion of self and others for meeting the challenges of life.

Too often however, in the drive for ‘competitive edge and efficiency’ compassion is forgotten.
What we forget, we become fearful of.

This highly practical workshop emphasises that compassion isas much about creating a
purposeful future, as about healing past hurt.

‘All seek happiness. None seeks suffering.’ The Dalai Lama

PLEASE NOTE: Places are limited. Use link above to make your booking.

The intention behind this workshop is to raise curiosity about the subjective structures we use for experiencing and showing compassion. We explore how every individual can increase their choices – and opportunities for living with compassion. We emphasise the ‘how’s’ rather then ‘why’s’ , ‘structure’ rather than ‘content’ , and ‘usefulness’ rather than ‘good/bad’.

Kind comments about this workshop:

“I found this course to be incredibly beneficial and successful and a joy to do. I really enjoyed learning about the theories and doing the exercises – the content was both relevant and helpful to me. Thank you Phil for putting together the course; it is amazing – so well done. I’m feeling far more at peace with myself and far more compassionate with myself and others, so its a RESULT!”
Michelle Pritchard. Business Enterprise Manager. East London Secondary School

“I had a brilliant weekend; a lot of very practical, hands on exercises and tips. Phil has this wonderful way to make us feel secure, and at ease – encouraging us to explore the different ‘hidden’ parts of our shy but precious compassionate self. Thank you for such an inspiring course.”
Mathilde B. Touch Therapist. Primary School, West London.

“I find each time I do a session with Phil, I leave with a positive attitude. I find this course useful and necessary for everyone to keep a balanced life and be happy within themselves.”
Dolly Rahman. Teaching Assistant. East London Secondary School

“I have been in the presence of a master! The course has been truly beneficial.”
John Carter. Landscape Gardener.

“Exciting course that pulls together many different ways of shifting thinking and feeling without feeling personally exposed or going into story. Lots of fun. Very big thank you for a number of light bulb moments and in raising my curiosity to really want to continue on this journey.”
Anne. Social Work Manager.

These are some of the areas explored through discussion, demonstrating, and some exciting group and pairs exercises.

• What is so important about compassion? How does living compassionately effect us – and what is science telling us? Is there a difference between sympathy, empathy, and compassion, does it matter?
• In what areas of our lives do we find compassion? Can we learn it? Where does it come from? What do we do when we can’t find it? Why we get fearful and lonely and what can we do about it. How does compassion influence our values, beliefs, and perceptions? What can we do when we get compassion fatigue?
• What prevents us from being compassionate? Where is the conflict, and what do we do about it? What are the different neurological levels of compassion? How exactly does the brain help and hinder us? Why is the brain designed to make mistakes? What do we do when we continually sabotage our own happiness and compassion? What has our evolution got to do with it?
• How can we be more compassionate in our everyday life? How can we feel less anxious, worried, fragmented? How do we get in our own way? What is the forgotten essential seventh sense?
• Does responsibility need always to be heavy, and linked to blame? Why does guilt have a short ‘shelf life’? And what do guilt, shame, and fear have to do with compassion?
• Which attitudes contribute to, build, and maintain compassion? What can we do when judgement, criticism, blame, guilt, shame, and attacking and/or intrusive thoughts and/or action take over? Why can we often not let go of anger?
• How do we build more compassionate relationships? Do we need a partner or family to experience compassion? Why there is always a minimum of four in any relationship? What is a JAFO? What has the structure of time and physiology got to do with it all? How love itself is intelligent, and not simply a verb?

• who is the workshop for? Anyone who wants to re-connect to compassion in their life and/or help others do this. Especially those working in the education, social services, charity, criminal justice, personal development and health sectors. Also parents, carers, coaches, counsellors, and therapists.

• the venue:Action for ChildrenFamily Centre . Greenleys Milton Keynes. (45 mins by train from London/Birmingham) Travel & accomodation details are supplied on request.
  
• your trainer:Phil Reed. Nlp Master Practitioner & Cert.Coach. (ITS London) AAMET Adv.Cert Trainer. Formerly a police officer, Phil works through inner city London schools, charities, and social services, with staff, parents, students, and young people.
  
• the fees: funded by your employer/organisation: £160.00. If funding yourself – £80.00.
• This includes comprehensive manual/personal log book, teas/coffees, & optional email follow-up support. Please bring a packed lunch.

• how to book your place: Places are limited. Please use the on-line booking link above.
  
• A £30 deposit is required to secure individual bookings, with the balance due before training commences.
  

Payment can be by cash, cheque, bank transfer, or online card payment. Please indicate your preference when booking. If paying by PayPal you do not require a PayPal account.

Please note: If you cancel within 7 days of the course start, and your place is not taken by another person or you are not able to book another date, your deposit may be lost. If in the unlikely event of the course having to be cancelled by Phil Reed, your deposit will be returned to you.